20 Things NOT to say

20 Things NOT to say to a Chronically Ill Person

These lists are compliments of National Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Weekat www.invisbleillness.com.Get involved in Invisible Illness Week this year during the week of September 14-20, 2009, including the 5-day virtual conference online.

#1 You look so good today!

#2 You just need to get out of the house more.

#3 If you stop thinking about it, the pain will go away.

#4 You should just pray harder.

#5 You must not want to get better if you wont try this…

#6 When I was your age I didn’t have the luxury of being sick.

#7 You’re sick again?

#8 I wish I could just sit around all day.

#9 No pain, no gain!

#10 I’d be sick too if I saw doctors as much as you do.

#11 I have this juice that is working wonders!

#12 You must still have sin in your life.

#13 If you got a job you would have something else to think about.

#14 Your illness is caused by stress.

#15 You can not be in that much pain. Maybe you just want attention…

#16 What have you done to make God so mad at you?

#17 There are easier ways to get attention.

#18 It’s not good for your kids to always hear you whining.

#19 When are you going to get rid of that cane?

#20 I’m so glad to see you out and about feeling all better.

Source: http://invisibleillnessweek.com


I have to disagree with #1 in some situations. If someone is chronically ill, especially those with an invisbile illness, and it looks like they have put forth the effort to look better, then compliment them! I’d rather hear I look good when I’ve done myself up a bit. It’s nice to know others notice as well.. You have to know what this person ‘normally’ looks like and the amount of effort usually put into their personal appearance. A bit of makeup & a good hairbrushing into a simple style with a nice set of clothes can change how a a person look easily! Myself, if I have spent time on my hair, put on makeup, that’s a sign that I am having a decent day & want to look nicer.. However, wearing a dress isn’t necessarily a sign cuz for me dresses are generally easier to wear than slacks and a blouse. Others might find wearing a dress to be too stressful

If they just look ‘healthier’, be wary, it might be & could easily be a facade.. If you take the time to look, you will know the difference..

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