I’m Fine

“I’m fine” is the biggest crock of shit going on out there.

If I ever say I’m fine, call me on it because I am lying. Lying blatently through my teeth.

I’m fine can mean so many things:

• I don’t want to talk about it.
• I’m trying to ignore it.
• I’m not able to deal with people today, and unfortunately (don’t take it to heart) that includes you.
• I’m in agony & don’t want to inflict my pain on others.
• Brain is mush. Thanks to my meds! & Thanks to fibro fog
• I honestly don’t know the answer
• My mental health is screwed up not the physical.
• My mental health is screwed up in addition to the physical.
• I’m getting pain from multiple directions and can’t focus

It’s most likely the first one or last two, but can be anyone of these. If I make emphasis of “I’m fine” please don’t push it.

Be Kind – You Don’t Know The Struggles Of Another

A well written article from CNN about how depression, a medical condition, impacts the lives and deaths of people struggling with it. PLEASE READ.

Some particular statements I found poignant:

• “Just because you can’t see it inside someone, doesn’t mean the pain they are experiencing isn’t real or overwhelming.”
• “With cancer, you see people you love deteriorating on the outside. When someone struggles with mental health issues, you often don’t see it.”
• “There’s a big difference between wanting to end your pain and wanting to end your life. But some of those who struggle with mental illness may not be able to see the difference.”
• “Stop assuming you know what someone else’s life is like, or what it’s like to live in their head. You have no idea what somebody else’s life is like. And neither do I. You have no idea what pain or trauma a huge smile may be hiding.”

If someone has depression or even occasional suicidal ideologies, offering support instead of criticism is always the best way to go. You do not, can not, know how much someone is struggling with their demons. As Ellen says, “Be kind.”

Those who I know who should read this the most won’t even bother. They will consider themselves better even when they have struggled with their demons.