Posts Tagged ‘creative’

Online Dating Profiles – Tips for Guys

September 29, 2020

I know.. it’s got nothing to do with fibro, or health, but it’s my blog so I can pick the occasional off topic.

So.. Tips for Guys in their online dating profiles… I think unless you are in a hardcore fetish site or a site exclusively for hookups only, I think these suggestions might help you get a better response from the ladies.. or laddie’s, if you swing that way…

Have a Good Profile picture:

  • Picture of you, your face, not your dog, your bike, your fish, your boat or your genitalia.
  • Smile!!! Unless you a totally serious person.. Have at least one photo of you with an honest smile on your face.
  • Make sure you are the focal point of the picture. The point is to see you, not the statue or whatnot you are standing beside. & Loose the mask so we can see your face & also be cognizant of the light and shadows they cast
  • Picture of only you, no other people. You can put picture of you with your kid(s), your family, your friends elsewhere in your profile, just not the main one
  • No pictures with blanked out faces. Just crop the other person out, or use a different picture
  • Make sure it’s in focus and check the lighting to make sure your face can be seen.
  • Keep the background simple, unless it is highly relevant to you. & No taking your pictures in the damn car – be original! Try to blur out any busy backgrounds if you can
  • Don’t add any filters to your image..Don’t need to bling it up
  • Keep your images current, especially if your look changes..
  • Do not use memes as your first few images,
  • Don’t use the picture from work, be it an ID badge, business card or a professional marketing materials. Most of these are too posed & too stiff to represent you well in this medium.. & for ID badges, nthose are not typically a complimentary picture
  • Brush your hair, put on something nice if you are going to take a selfie & taking from straight on or better slightly above, but not beliw
  • Dont use an Avatar for your user image, and doing be someone that’s not you, esp a celeb.. If you are not Shemar Moore’s twin, don’t use his picture.
  • Include multiple pictures.. The second & third & fourth can include your kids or your dog.. but skip the one where your sister is giving you a high – first question is always – Who is she? His wife?.
  • Do not use the same picture more than once
  • Only use a “dick pic” if you are on a hookup site & that’s what you are looking for.

Add actual profile content.. it does not have to be long only 3-4 sentences to start… And you can add more later.

  • Write *Something* Don’t just leave it blank
  • Describe what you a looking for be it a hookup, a fwb, a dating partner or something long-term & permanent..
  • Describe what you’re looking for in someone. Be upfront. If you don’t like Asian Women, say so. If you don’t like Smokers, say so. If you want someone 420 friendly then say so.
  • Tell us about you – character traits & descriptive words that might help: Funny, sarcastic, confident, laid-back, determined, passionate, ambitious, kind, outgoing, shy, outdoorsy, homebody, animal lover, thrifty, open-minded, politically savvy, honest, honourable, adaptable, Raptors fan, imaginative, creative, spontaneous, happy, friendly, movie liver, compassionate, loyal, humble, meticulous, picky, assertive, sports enthusiast, reliable, sociable, enthusiastic, meticulous, generous, curious, clean, tidy, healthy, charming, brilliant, courageous, artistic, dramatic, playful, creative, principled, honourable, organized, scatterbrained, disciplined, affectionate, faithful, private, extreme, unique, sincere, reserved & shy vs affable & gregarious, talkative or quiet, adventurous, hardworking, Liberal vs Conservative vs Socialist, strong-willed, respectful, blunt, democratic, self-sufficient, wise, smart, sexy, vain, modern VA old fashioned, physical, hedonistic, money-driven, delicate, opinionated, predatory, zany, sassy …That’s a good list to help you out
  • Answer some of the questions different sites ask.. “What can you cook? What TV shows do you watch?
  • Be clear & concise. Be aware of spelling, punctuation & grammar..
  • The more you complete of your profile, generally also means the more accurate your matches are..

Do not have multiple profiles.. I’ve come across the same guy in 3 different profiles.. I blocked all.three cuz he’s not a twin or a ltriple.

Any other suggestions? For guys, or ideas for gals aswell – I could always new tips!

How Do You Sleep

July 26, 2020

What position do you sleep in? Do prefer to sleep on your back? Or are you a side sleeper? Or do you just drop face first? Or are you sprawled ou, taking up the whole bed?

How you sleep, the position you are in does reflect on how well you sleep and on your overall health.

Side Sleeper: Arguably the most comfortable and most common, this position is beneficial for those with back pain, acid reflex & sleep apnea. Your airway is open, your head is aligned, and your esophagus is elevated, preventing the reflux. However side sleepers can theoretically get extra wrinkles cuz the skin sags in one direction consistently and for long periods of time. And if you sleep in s tight fetal position you can impair your breathing and even worsen conditions including.arthritis, back pain & joint pain. Finally, if you have to choose between the right & left, choose left as sleeping on your right can cause organs to shift slightly as you sleep putting pressure on each other & specifically the stomach aggravating acid reflex.

The word is that side sleepers are an easy-going people, who welcomes everyone with an open heart. Those who prefer sleeping on the left may be more creative while those in favour of the right side are more likely to have an addictive personality, at least according to one survey.

Personally, this is how I prefer to sleep, fairly consistently on my left.. Moreso for comfort than the reasons above. I can sleep on my right, but it seems to aggravate my bursitis most days.

Back Sleeper: If you value your beauty sleep, this is the position for you as your weight in your face is evenly distributed preventing sagging & this wrinkles. Additionally, lifting your head slightly while sleeping on your back prevents acid reflux. However for those with sleep apnea, the position of the head results in worsened sleep apnea and snoring. Additionally, pregnant women who sleep on their backs apparently have s higher rate of still births.

The word is that back Sleepers are the most likely to wake up recharged and good-to-go for the day. It may also signify having really unrealistic and high expectations of both yourself & others.

I can not sleep in this position, myself.. Well, technically, yes I *can* but sleep is erratic, sporadic and not refreshing. Sleeping on my back tends to leave my body in a bad place. Typically when I get up after having slept, even only part of the night on my back, my body will retaliate, increasing my pain levels a good solid notch or two.

Tummy Sleeper: I don’t know anyone who prefers this as their go- to sleep position. The only plus with this position is your airway is open preventing both snoring and sleep apnea. However, sleeping this way really does a number on your back. The physical position on your tummy caused you tummy to relax into the bed. This causes problems with the spinal alignment of your back and neck. As the front of your body sinks more into the mattress, there is more pressure on your muscles, joints and organs resulting in pain.

The word is Tummy sleepers tend to be a social butterfly and a very amicable person. However, they may come across a little brash at times. They do not like being criticized, as they are insecure on the inside.

Personally, while I will lay on my stomach the odd time when I’m having a restless night, I don’t think I have even truly slept right on my stomach. When I was young, I remember being a tripod with my weight on the one arm, the same hip & opposite knee as I’m cocked over but not flat on my tummy. But I can’t even do that anymore.

Tips on improving your sleep.

Side Sleepers need to ensure the pillows adequately supports the neck but does not extend it the other direction (I’ve done that – gets a nasty crick). Put pillow between the knees or thighs to help align the hips.

Back Sleepers need to place a pillow between the knees to relieve strain on the back and sure the other pillow aligns the neck and spine in a natural, neutral position.

Stomach Sleepers need to prop the head up enough with a pillow to allows easy breathing but the pillow should also keep your face straight & facing straight down preventing snoring, back pain, and neck pain. (So a donut pillow?) Additionally, you can place a pillow beneath the hips to prevent your abdomen from sinking, putting your spine out of alignment.

What do I do?

May 30, 2009

For my fibromyalgia, I currently take the following Medications/supplements

  • Multi-vitamin – Naturapathy Dr does not recommend Centrum or most pharmacy brand multi’s
  • Calcium & Magnesium with vitamin D – Calcium cuz Women with Endo are more susceptible to Osteoporosis. Mg & D to help absorb the Calcium. The Magnesium also to help with muscle spasms & charlie horses. I have found that it has helped.
  • Fish oils – Generic fish oils, minimum 1000mg a day .. Well, I try to. Naturapathy Dr recommended 1000mg-3000mg daily of the EPA+DHA to help with mental acuity. I’m still waiting for the fog to lift, but I’m not usually getting enough to impact because I fog up & forget.. Lovely catch 22 there.
  • B complex to help with stress and ensure that I get enough B’s. No, I don’t take a stress formula. Just a normal B complex.. either 50mg or 100mg
  • Codeine Contin for maintenance pain.
  • Tylenol #3 for breakthrough pain
  • Oxycodone for severe breakthrough pain
  • Flexeril (Cyclobenzaprine) as a muscle relaxer. I find it better than anything OTC..
  • Probiotics to help regulate my digestive track – it works, ‘cept when I have an IBS flare or food sensitivity
  • NSAID, but it’s for my Endometriosis, so I don’t really know if it does impact my FMS or not.

For my fibromyalgia, I currently participate in the following exercise:

  • Aqua-fit, really carefully – I’m just getting back into exercise, so I am trying to get to the gentle classes. My local YMCA gym has a class or arthritics and for osteoporosis. Aqua-fit is a good choice because of the buoyancy of the water, it doesn’t impact my knees, and it’s a gentle cardio
  • Seriously, right now that’s it. I need access to a hot tub to do further exercise to keep my body warm.

For my fibromyalgia, I intend to return to the following exercises:

  • Yoga with the hot tub – Yoga provides gentle stretching while working on core strength and balance. The hot tub helps to keep muscles relaxed afterward.
  • Keeping up with Aqua-fit – see above ๐Ÿ™‚
  • Walking the track to music with the hot tub – I got into walking when my nieces were born, walking with my sister. After I joined the Y and my nephew was born, I would take him in his stroller to walk him around the track. He’s too old now, but I have found it enjoyable with my MP3 player (or CD player back then). I sometimes dance a little bit and my pace changes with the music I’m listening to. It’s hard to overexert myself. ๐Ÿ™‚ The hot tub helps to keep muscles relaxed afterward.

A benefit from the exercise is that I tend to be tired out afterward and relaxed. This makes evening workouts ideal in that I go home, go straight to bed and will sleep well, with a decent amount of healing rest. This improves me, physically, emotionally and mentally for the next day.

For my fibromyalgia. my spiritual side is limited. I don’t go to church often, however I do find solace in my home church’s sanctuary. I’ve moved away from my home church and have yet to try out the sanctuary here. I also find the same ‘state of grace’ from music, especially my churchy music ๐Ÿ™‚

For my fibromyalgia, because of my physical limitation, I am limited socially. Most of my social interaction is via the internet on Twitter, Facebook, Email, etc.. The alternative to that in real life is with my SO and his friends. Most of my friends no longer talk to me, or are too far away for more than email. The classes as the Y present a new socialization source, which I hope to be helpful. With the improvement of my health I would like to return to scouting in some sort of part-time or limited capacity.

For my fibromyalgia and my cognitive abilities, I am starting this blog. It will help keep me thinking and requires research. It also provides a creative outlet. I also enjoy doing word searches and have, on recommendation on my therapist, started to colour and have other crafts options available to me.

For my fibromyalgia and an emotional aspect, I have a councilor and have been placed on anti-depressants. While my time with her is limited I do find that I feel better after I speak with her. Additionally I have the support with my SO. While sometimes he can not understand and becomes frustrated, I know he only has best intentions where I am concerned.

How do I cope? Not well. Other than the limited exercise mentioned above, the odd screaming match and the rarer still church visit, I have no real outlets.. Which sucks. Before I got sick, my outlets for frustration and anger and stress were physical. With the fibro, I have lost that. Any suggestions are welcome ๐Ÿ™‚