Posts Tagged ‘Perception’

Treatment – Fat vs Thin

June 7, 2022

Walking with my sister last week she asked me if I had noticed if I get treated differently now, with shrinking. I thought about it for a minute and in some ways, yes, some ways no..

I no longer get dirty looks from people because of my weight.. People tend to be friendlier and less judgemental.. People are more likely to smile back when I smile. I don’t get dirty looks when I treat myself to an edible treat or I go through drive thru for dinner. I haven’t heard a rude comment spoken behind my back but in earshot for a long time. In general there seems to be less discrimination..

That being said, I have gotten dirty looks from some plus size women. I don’t know if they notice the extra skin and ate jealous or my weight-loss success. I don’t know if they recognize the BBW attitude I still have even tho I now wear a size large. I don’t know if it’s the self confidence I have in myself.

One area I’ve noticed that hasn’t changed much is guys. I still catch get the attention of guys who are ‘into’ BBWs.. I now do get the attention of guys who like ‘regular’ sized girls as well .. Either way tho, they still, for the most part, are all still looking for the same thing. Casual is not on my radar, never really has been. Maybe it was my size before & my age now. I don’t know why they think I am easy pickin’s.

This is the last of my weight-loss victories series

Improved vs Better

September 7, 2020

it’s interesting how terminology reflects how people perceive what you say. Using one word over another well meaning the same 2 Chainz how it is interpreted.

for example, if I was to tell somebody that I was feeling better. People who are not chronically ill take this to mean “all better” cut, as in completely healed, no longer sick. For then, being better from something like a cold means they are no longer sick. This is not the case for us with Chronic health conditions. “Better” could mean my pain levels are lower than yesterday or my fatigue has abated somewhat rh my fibro fog has cleared for the day.

because of this, I like to use the word improved. Well this means the exact same thing, people do not assume that I’ve been healed. They typically realize that there is an improvement to a point. Which is essentially what I’m trying to say. While I am still sick, and will remain so for the rest of my life, that day I feel improved, I am not feeling as bad as I was before for whatever reason

Try using the word Improved the next time you intend to use the word better for your health. See what different reaction you get.